Resting In the Not Knowing

I’m in charge of my household, my business, myself. I’m in charge as the primary caregiver for my eldest son. I’m in charge. What are you in charge of?

As a parent, I along with my husband were in charge of raising our children in the right manner. We did so to the best of our ability. We read books, listened to various parenting experts, attended seminars and prayed, a lot. We did things that we felt would be beneficial for our children and knew that things would turn out well. They didn’t.

We came to a place in our parenting journey where things were not okay. Where two of our children decided that it was not good for us to be in charge. We were thrown into an unknown world where we didn’t know what to do.

At the lowest point in our journey I became full of the turmoil of not knowing. Not knowing the why. I tried to figure it out. That’s the first thing NOT to do.

Figuring things out, why people do what they do in relationships, or a child’s rebellious ways is not beneficial.

One of the first steps to knowing your next step is to be okay with not knowing. Rest into that.

Allow yourself to be okay with not having the answer. Allowing yourself the privilege of not knowing frees you.

Instead, take a deep breath and pray. Allow the answer to come to you at a later time if it is meant to. There is no good thing that will come when anxiety fills the mind and heart.

This is a big thing that I struggled with, and now I like to use this in every part of my life now. Even for the little things.

I like to teach this to my clients as well. We’re human and it’s okay to not know. We can’t know everything at all times and that’s okay.

I like these verses from the Bible that helped me through this time. They are from Philippians 4:6 & 7

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Dear reader, I don’t know the circumstance you are in today but rest assured that God knows, and it’s okay for you to not know. Allow His peace to permeate your being. Not sure how? Don’t hesitate to reach out.

May God bless you in the not knowing.


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